NEWS FLASH..Forget Tiger..my baldy's back!!

Its true "bald head and goatee" came back last night. ..Not without me swallowing my pride and sending a olive branch by way of a "Merry Christmas"text...he responded so I just let it be. Then I had a thought...why not reach out a little more since the "break up" was my fault. I decided to wait a few days and send another little "olive leaf" his way. He responded with a "Can I call you? text. I was so excited that I just stared at my phone..(why do we do that)...I waited a few minutes and responded with "Yes"...He called an hour later and we talked for atleast an hour.. during our talk he apologized and told me that he missed me. I really missed him..but we did need a little break..I thought about him a lot..that night he came over and we watched a movie... Should I tell him that I really took a break from dating..but I did meet someone...????What now?

Tiger..oh Tiger...Part 1

First..I have a disclaimer before I make comments about Tiger Woods and his situation. I want the record to show that I by no means am I judging him. I am merely making a speculation based on what the media is reporting. I could care less about the way he chooses to live his life but I will post my comments to anyone who wants to read.

OK..now that I got that out of the way..lets get to the good stuff:)

I don't really agree with what Tiger has done to put himself and family in this position. I AM NOT cosigning his behavior at all. But come on I thought to myself....is it all on him?

So I wanted to dig a little bit deeper about men and why they do what they do. I will reference some of the information that I learned from Bishop David G.Evans and George Bloomer. Based on their views on men and relationships. I am learning so much about the what is a real man and the way a real man behaves and think when they are not happy, when they are stressed, when they are frustrated.

I had too because I was asking my girlfriends who were women...I needed to hear it from a man..I love the David G.Evans...he starts out saying "Ladies I am going to tell you things about a man your daddy should have told you". I love that because my father past five years ago and really for most of my life he was not available for such conversations. I needed to have them in the worst way in my twenties. I was clueless and made A LOT of mistakes...lots of them. I am glad my twenties are gone. My thirties..um I developed some sort of rhyme or reason and started to see the light on what not to do...however it took a lot to conform but we will get back to that.

It was funny, when I started out I discovered I had a lot of behavior that was really killing my relationships and I did not realize how bad it was until I learned different. The key is implementation. Some of the things I learned from the teachings are that men have their own language and if we are going to be in their lives we need to learn their language and stop trying to make them think like us. We slowing turn them into our girlfriends. We want them all sensitive and when they become sensitive we don't respect what we created. Now we think he is weak.

Men are weight barriers..meaning that they grow stronger by the weight that they bare i.e.issues of life. Men are always in fires or putting out fires. A real man can handle a situation with calm and ease..if we let them. When we enable them we weaken them. When a man comes home he needs some time to relax in his environment before we "ponce" issues on them.

This next one is the BIGGY!!! Out of all of my teachings..this one blew my mind the most. ...are you ready?
Men are absent and present at the same time... wheewww let that one soak in. When a man stops talking that means one or two things ...he is leaving or he already left! He can be sitting right next to you and not really be there....like the song goes..."Your body is here with me but your mind is on the other side of town".

That is the worst...because we cause it sometimes by what comes out of our mouth...the average woman can argue a man right out the door..then wonder why he left..then "Sally" gets him and she is all sweet...she listens to him..she laughs at his corny ass jokes and Sally gets most of his time.. That is why he seems so drain when he comes home because "Sally got the best of him and you have the crumbs ..a shell of a man...you beat him up emotionally and the well that he is suppose to draw from is dry and not producing so what does he do...he searches for another source to draw from..a surrogate ..most times he don't love her but she is in the filler position. "Sally" does not mind watering a tree that is not hers because she is enjoying the fruit. Hell she did not plant it..but she is nurturing it.. Now when he goes home he is withered ..no life..no sunshine..complain complain complain..shot down... He runs to "Sally" her arms...(and legs) wide open..full of plant food ready to nurture. Now I am not saying that what he is doing is OK but what I am saying is if we nurture our men and keep our mouths shut and learn how to say things at the right and appropriate time in a sweeter way..things might go a lot smoother. We are all "entrust" to good treatment not "entitled. When we do certain things to a man it kills their passion for us. period. not that it can't come back but it won't if we keep repeating toxic behavior.Being stubborn is not cute..I learned that quick. I had to co con conf confo CONFORM!!

Now how does that apply to Tiger and his situation. Not sure. I have never been married nor do I understand fully all the complexities of being married. But I can imagine from what I hear from couples that in the beginning its all good..that new energy of shared lives coming together to make a go at it. To me its sort of reminds me of a new car with a new car smell ...your all hyped at the new and shiny vehicle...then the new car smell goes away and the shine is not as shiny..you don't get as much pleasure driving it ...it accumulates miles and makes a little extra noise.. Did Tiger go shopping for another or several other cars to drive because the car he had was making too much noise.. or the shine went away.. Men love it when you are glad to see them when they come home and it works both ways. Who knows what was going on in his world behind closed doors..